HER, Her and her

(Note from Mel – I am adding a new blogger to the mix. Mikey Kokoslover is a dear friend and talented artist, who writes on a broad range of topics. He wanted to write something from the heart, so…here he is.)

By Mikey Kokoslover

I met HER when I needed love. HER was unlike any other woman that I had met before (or since). We dated, we married, and had some beautiful years together.

Then life hit us hard…expectantly hard. It hit us in a way that breaks people. It broke us.

We loss the oneness of “us” and became more HER and me. More accurately, we became more HER versus me. No longer allies, we became advisories, and we developed that adversarial relationship to the fullest. It was ripe with resentment, and insurmountable emotional barriers. We argued viciously and constantly. We devolved into a downward spiral of distrust and disrespect that further devolved until we no longer understood, or liked one another. We sought comfort in others; a move that left us emotionally dying and exposed, pained and vulnerable. In the midst of that is when I found Her.

The Difficulty of Pleasing Your Woman

(Note from Mel – this is another post written by my friend, H. Samoth. I think he’s getting the hang of this…now we just have to convince him to start his own blog!)

By H. Samoth

Well, I am big in trying to please my wife. There isn’t much I wouldn’t do to satisfy her sexual desires or fantasies. Hey, I am married and the Bible says that I have the necessary license to enjoy sex with her. So whatever it takes and whatever her command sexually, I do not or would not hesitate to comply. That’s the good part.

So what’s the problem? Well, as much as I want to please her I sometimes fall short because of what I perceive in my mind as “it’s all me” sex. In other words, if I don’t initiate sex, the chances of me getting some are very slim. If I don’t put her in certain position of my desire then it’s not happening. If I lay in bed hoping that she reaches over and touches me, then hope is lost.

Sex in marriage: it should be a priority…

And if it isn’t, you might be in trouble.

Take it from someone who made the mistake of getting involved with a married man…a unhappily married man.

Boring sex vs no sex at all – a man’s perspective

(Note from Mel – this post was written by friend, H. Samoth. H is a pretty good writer, but still a bit gun shy about writing publicly. This is his first foray into blogging…be nice!)

By H. Samoth

I love my wife. And I enjoy having sex with her. She is the only woman I have ever loved like this and is the only woman I want to ever love like this. Yet, I desire more from our sex life. We have been together for over 26 years and I am just as attracted to her today as I was 26 years ago. I still want her. I still daydream about her at work to the point where I can’t even walk away from my desk due to fear of embarrassment from the imprint on of my pants. When she showers and puts on that itty-bitty robe, blood gushes to my member and all sorts of thoughts fill my mind. I think about taking her all sorts of ways. From behind, from the side, her on top riding me or just my tongue deep in her sweet spot. Yeah, she still turns me on like nobody’s business.